A former raver has become the most requested woman on the luxury-dating platform Velvet Terms after discovering that years spent navigating afterparties had prepared her perfectly for wealthy men seeking attractive companionship. Twenty-six-year-old Anaïs Desrosiers says her inbox now receives more invitations in one afternoon than most people receive during an entire summer.

Desrosiers spent much of her early twenties in Montreal’s rave scene, where she developed an unusual talent for recognizing who actually had money, who was pretending to have money and who had already borrowed twenty dollars from everyone near the DJ booth. She also became skilled at listening to long personal stories, escaping uncomfortable conversations and remaining polite while somebody explained an investment opportunity nobody had requested.

She joined Velvet Terms after a friend pointed out that she was already spending her weekends entertaining older men at parties without receiving anything beyond warm beer and questionable advice. Desrosiers created a simple profile explaining that she enjoyed good restaurants, honest conversations and people who respected her time. Within two days, she had received hundreds of messages from businessmen, property developers and one man whose profile described him only as “financially discreet.”

Her popularity comes partly from refusing to behave like someone she is not. She does not pretend to understand expensive wine, laugh at every joke or act impressed when a man mentions owning several condominiums. Instead, she asks direct questions, remembers small details and makes her dates feel interesting without treating them like celebrities. “Most of these men have people who want their money,” she explained. “Very few have someone willing to tell them their new haircut was a serious mistake.”

Some former rave friends have criticized the arrangements for being transactional. Desrosiers finds this argument strange coming from people who regularly promote events in exchange for guest-list access. “Almost every relationship involves people wanting something from each other,” she said. “At least Velvet Terms encourages everyone to be honest about what that is.”

Desrosiers now considers each invitation carefully, preferring men who make clear plans and respect her time. She still attends the occasional rave, but says she no longer feels obligated to impress people offering nothing in return. “The rave scene taught me that everybody wants something,” she said. “Velvet Terms taught me to ask what they are bringing to the arrangement.”